If we borrow something from others we are thinking we need something what we don't have ourselves.
As a result, however, we become dependent from the one who lends us something. It is very different with love and appreciation. We don't need love and appreciationto be asked by others. We can have it in abundance ourselves- however we have to consider ourselves lovable. To feel loved, it’s enough when we think lovingly about ourselves and treat us lovingly.
Because what we send, will come back to us.